In China, some behaviors that seem perfectly normal to you might make locals frown. Understanding these cultural taboos isn't about constraining yourself β it's about blending in more smoothly.
Social Etiquette β How to Greet
A handshake or nod is sufficient when meeting someone. Don't shake too firmly β a strong grip may be seen as aggressive. Don't go straight for a hug β physical contact may make new Chinese friends uncomfortable. Do greet the eldest or most senior person first as a sign of respect. Use "Nin" (ζ¨) instead of "Ni" (δ½ ) when addressing elders β it's more polite and respectful.
Table Manners β How to Use Chopsticks
Don't use your own chopsticks to pick food from communal dishes β it's unhygienic. Use the serving chopsticks or serving spoons provided. Don't tap your bowl or the table with your chopsticks β this is considered rude. Don't put bones, seeds, or other inedibles in your rice bowl β place them on the small plate provided. Do join in on toasts β it's polite to stand and toast together at formal gatherings. When someone refills your tea, tap the table with two fingers to express thanks.
Giving and Receiving Gifts β Quite a Few Rules
Do present and receive things with both hands. Do refuse a gift a few times before accepting it β this is normal in Chinese culture. Don't give clocks, umbrellas, or pears β these have unlucky homophones in Chinese culture (clock sounds like "sending off to death," umbrella sounds like "separation," pear sounds like "leaving").
Public Behavior β Mind Your Manners
Don't wave someone over with an upturned finger β this gesture is considered impolite in China. Don't point the bottoms of your feet at anyone. Take off your shoes when entering someone's home. Avoid publicly discussing politics, income, or controversial historical topics. Don't embarrass or criticize others in public β Chinese people place great importance on "face".
Punctuality β Being on Time Shows Respect
Being on time shows respect for others' time. Try never to be late.